What are you afraid of? You, who must be appeased because you are an embattled man, powerless to control the world spiraling around you, what do you fear?
Are you so fearful that you cannot countenance controlling lethal weapons, or making it more difficult for those who are seriously mentally ill to procure them? You are the author of your own terror. When everyone has a firearm, everyone will have a firearm — even those you fear the most — and then your fears will be justified?
Or, has your gun become a substitute for something else? Are you afraid of being unable to provide for you family? Are your job skills dated? Your education truncated? Your time spent in job hunting extended? Why do you clutch your gun? It’s not going to get you an education, more training, or more interviews.
Do you fear the loss of your “masculinity?” What does that mean? Does it mean you can’t slap the bookkeeper Mary Ann on the fanny down at the garage? Does it mean that you can’t brag about making babies if you don’t make child support payments? Does it mean that people have stopped listening to you when you grouse about The Old Lady not having dinner ready for you when she gets off her second shift? Why do you clutch your gun? It’s not going to make your relationships at work any easier. Or provide you with a sense of the responsibility associated with parenting. Or even add any economic security to your two income household.
Do you fear the diminishment of your sense of self worth? Can we ask how you calculate that value? Is how much you are worth a function of the size of your paycheck, or it is based on the joy you take from your workmanship, craftsmanship, or competency you bring to your employment? Is how much you are worth a function of some sense of entitlement because you are The Man? Why do you clutch your gun? Would you caress it less often if you understood that self worth is elevated when you can share the rewards of your efforts at being a good worker, a good parent, a good friend, and good partner with someone you’ve helped to become a better worker, a better parent, a better friend, and a more loving partner?
Are you afraid of The Other? Are ‘they’ going to invade your home? Would you be less afraid if you read the crime statistics in your area? If you remembered that only 1% of the murders in Nevada happened in the course of a burglary? [DB] If you recalled that there is a ‘geography’ of criminal behavior in which most criminals indulge in criminal behavior close to their own neighborhoods and generally don’t move into areas in which they aren’t familiar with the terrain, would that make you less anxious?
Would you be less insecure if you recalled that the most prevalent crime in Nevada is good old fashioned larceny? As of 2012 there were 45,237 of those — compared to a grand total of 5,954 murders (118), rapes (923), and robberies (4,913) combined? [NVACR pdf]
Why do you clutch your gun if only in the most perfect set of circumstances it would offer you and yours protection? IF you were perfectly awake, and the firearm was loaded and at the ready, and IF the burglar(s) followed your directions to the letter, and IF you were absolutely certain the projectile would strike its target without careening off into the unknown, and IF everything would work to your benefit as easily as scoring points in a video game…
Why do you clutch your gun as if it were the only option available to you? You are less likely to be robbed while walking a dog — get a dog! Don’t have a dog? — borrow the neighbor’s mutt — the neighbors will appreciate it, and the dog will love it. You are less likely to be assaulted when walking with someone else — walk with a partner. You are less likely to be the victim of a crime if you are in a well lighted area — make sure the public works department knows when your street lights are out. You are less likely to be a victim of a burglary if you have a security system — there are a plethora of options on the market. Can’t afford the system — just plant a sign. Don’t want the sign? Plant some cactus under your windows — they don’t take much water and who wants to climb over a cactus on the way to a TV set? There are carload lots of other options, none of which are as dangerous in the home as that firearm.
Why do you clutch your gun, when there are so many other dangers to you and your family which your gun will not remotely solve? For example, about 25% of school children report they’ve been bullied at school [SchBStat] That’s far higher than the probability that your child will be attacked by a home invader! The gun in the drawer by the bed won’t solve that problem, but a quiet chat with your middle schooler about how he or she is feeling at school will yield the information you’ll need to keep the scion safer on the playground.
While you’re fantasizing about protecting the family from imaginary invaders — have you considered that your child is at greater health risk from obesity? Enough fast food and poor eating habits and the probability of your child having life threatening problems like high blood pressure, diabetes, sleep apnea, several types of cancer, and osteoarthritis increases proportionately. [CDC] Unless your child will only address a vegetable at gun point, the firearm isn’t really useful. However, if you want to keep your child alive and healthy in the long run, “Eat Your Vegetables” will go much further than “grab your gun.”
Want to protect your wife? Approximately 54% of the respondents in a study of workplace safety reported some form of harassment, and 79% of those victims were women. [Aware] Would you feel more secure if you knew that your spouse was knowledgeable about the policies at the workplace or about whom to contact? Only about a third in the survey knew about the company policies, and only about half knew whom to contact. Have you asked your wife if she’s aware of the policies and the procedures? Would you support her if she filed a report? That doesn’t require a firearm — just a supportive spouse.
If you aren’t afraid, and you just enjoy shooting rounds at the firing range, and you take care of your firearms — keeping them operative, clean, and safely stored — then by all means have them, care for them, and enjoy your hobby! But please don’t delude yourself that they will make you any more of a worthy person than you are. People who measure themselves by their possessions — are simply possessed.